UPDATE

So it has been a long time since I have posted so I will do a lot of pictures and show you what we have been up too.


Aaron wanted me to go blonde so I did. I really like it I think that I am going to keep it like that for awhile.








I decided this year that I wanted to go and see fireworks
at sugar house park. My parents and Ryan came with us. It was a lot of fun I think I might have to go again.











On the 4th of July we went up to Aaron's grandparents house. Every year Justin does a tank battle with tank fireworks. It is really cool. This is a picture of Ryan getting things ready before it is set on fire.

We also went swimming at Spencer's grandparents house it was alot of fun. It was Madisyn and Kaitlyn's first time swimming and they loved it.

IT'S FINALLY DONE....

It's Finished. We have it done, we layed sod yesterday and our backyard looks amazing. We have been working at it since the beginning of may. I really thought that it would be quick and easy and we would be done with everything by the end of May but boy was I wrong. I never realized how hard of work doing your yard was till I started my own. Since our house is 23 years old and no one has ever done anything with the backyard the soil was really hard and this house was the last one to get built so everyone but their rocks in our yard let me tell you we had a great time. All I have to say is that I am very greatful that we knew some one who had a bobcat, we used it alot. We started the beginning of May with leveling out the back yard and getting rid of all of the weeds let me tell you we had a ton. After that we did trenchings boy was that fun. We cut roots, killed trees (kind of), cut power, cut the cable line ( while you are reading this yes we did call blue stakes). It took 2 weeks to do all of the stuff and then on to sprinklers boy was that a job, but I am so greatful to have sprinklers because I was sick of pulling a hose around the yard to water everything last year. Finally after it seems like forever we were able to do sod yesterday. We started putting all of the sprinkler heads on on thursday and we fininshed that up when Aaron and I got off work yesterday. Josh came over at about 3:30 and him and Aaron started laying sod. They were by themselves for about 2 and 1/2 hours and then Aaron's parents and Spencer came over. My mom came over to help me take care of Kaitlyn and Madisyn while Josh was outside and Amber was at work. It got done faster then I thought but I am glad that I have family that is willing to help us out when we need them. After we got the sod laid we turned the sprinklers on the water the lawn and Aaron noticed that he didnt uncover on all the way so he had to dig it up and fix it. While he was doing that Ben decided to help him with the pick and the shovel. It is all fixed now and everything is looking amazing. I cant wait to be able to use my backyard and have a party. Here is the finished product.

YARD WORK

So as some of you now, but most of you dont Aaron and I have been trying to get our backyard done. Well when I say done I mean everything that includes sprinklers grass and a cement patio. I had no idea what I was getting into when I said I wanted it all done this year it has been a big project. We started doing trenches two weeks ago and we are almost done with the sprinkler part of this whole project. I swear I have never seen so many rocks in one spot in my life. We have so many big rocks that my mom came and got some so she could use them as a border for her three flower gardens. We have had a pretty fun time doing it though. It would be a lot better if the weather we be good for a couple of days and then we could probably get it done faster but it doesnt seem to be working in our favor. We have had family come over and help us and we really appreciate it. A couple of things that we have done that is kind of funny is that when we first started Aaron was getting ready to put an attachment on one of the pipes and instead of cutting that pipe he cut the main pipe that comes out from the house and the water was one so it sprayed everywhere. When we were doing trenches we had a ton of fun we did have blue stakes come out but we still manages to do some damage. We cut the cable line to the internet and cable in our house so I was unconnected for almost a week. We decided to do a rock wall in our backyard and that is going to be an area for our garden and I am really excited it looks really cool when we got the rocks last year we dropped it on accident on the green power box and squashed it but the power still work. Well also while we were doing trenches we got a power line and half of the power in our house was off which kind of was really weird they did come out and fix it and to our suprise we do not have to pay to fix anything which is quite lucky. While off to do more and hopefully not cause more damage. When we are done I will post pictures of everything.

NIAW

So this week is National Inferitily Awareness Week. As some of you know Aaron and I have been trying to have a baby for over a year now. Some days are harder then others it just depends upon the day. It is really nice having a sister that has gone through the same thing and a sister in law and a friend that is going through the same thing right now. I was reading my friends blog and I found this little thing about how people can be more sensitive to people who are trying to get pregnant. I have had those looks and the stares from people and it is really hard. I am not trying to hurt anyones feeling with this post. I know Aaron and I have a lot of blessing but I just want people to be more aware of what we are going through,


Chances are, you know someone who is struggling with infertility. More than five million people of childbearing age in the United States experience infertility. Yet, as a society, we are woefully uninformed about how to best provide emotional support for our loved ones during this painful time.
Infertility is, indeed, a very painful struggle. The pain is similar to the grief over losing a loved one, but it is unique because it is a recurring grief. When a loved one dies, he isn't coming back. There is no hope that he will come back from the dead. You must work through the stages of grief, accept that you will never see this person again, and move on with your life.
The grief of infertility is not so cut and dry. Infertile people grieve the loss of the baby that they may never know. They grieve the loss of that baby who would have had mommy's nose and daddy's eyes. But, each month, there is the hope that maybe that baby will be conceived after all. No matter how hard they try to prepare themselves for bad news, they still hope that this month will be different. Then, the bad news comes again, and the grief washes over the infertile couple anew. This process happens month after month, year after year. It is like having a deep cut that keeps getting opened right when it starts to heal.

Don't Tell Them to Relax
Everyone knows someone who had trouble conceiving but then finally became pregnant once she "relaxed." Couples who are able to conceive after a few months of "relaxing" are not infertile. By definition, a couple is not diagnosed as "infertile" until they have tried unsuccessfully to become pregnant for a full year.
Infertility is a diagnosable medical problem that must be treated by a doctor, and even with treatment, many couples will NEVER successfully conceive a child. Relaxation itself does not cure medical infertility.

Don't Minimize the Problem
Failure to conceive a baby is a very painful journey. Infertile couples are surrounded by families with children. These couples watch their friends give birth to two or three children, and they watch those children grow while the couple goes home to the silence of an empty house. These couples see all of the joy that a child brings into someone's life, and they feel the emptiness of not being able to experience the same joy. Comments like, "Just enjoy being able to sleep late . . . .travel . . etc.," do not offer comfort. Instead, these comments make infertile people feel like you are minimizing their pain. You wouldn't tell somebody whose parent just died to be thankful that he no longer has to buy Father's Day or Mother's Day cards. Losing that one obligation doesn't even begin to compensate for the incredible loss of losing a parent. In the same vein, being able to sleep late or travel does not provide comfort to somebody who desperately wants a child.

Don't Say There Are Worse Things That Could Happen
Along the same lines, don't tell your friend that there are worse things that she could be going through. Who is the final authority on what is the "worst" thing that could happen to someone?Different people react to different life experiences in different ways. To someone who has trained his whole life for the Olympics, the "worst" thing might be experiencing an injury the week before the event. And, to a woman whose sole goal in life has been to love and nurture a child, infertility may indeed be the "worst" thing that could happen.People wouldn't dream of telling someone whose parent just died, "It could be worse: both of your parents could be dead." Such a comment would be considered cruel rather than comforting.

Don't Say They Aren't Meant to Be Parents
One of the cruelest things anyone ever said to me is, "Maybe God doesn't intend for you to be a mother." How incredibly insensitive to imply that I would be such a bad mother that God felt the need to divinely sterilize me. If God were in the business of divinely sterilizing women, don't you think he would prevent the pregnancies that end in abortions? Or wouldn't he sterilize the women who wind up neglecting and abusing their children? Even if you aren't religious, the "maybe it's not meant to be" comments are not comforting. Infertility is a medical condition, not a punishment from God or Mother Nature.

Don't Ask Why They Aren't Trying IVF
(there is a whole subsection on this. the whole thing is good. i am not going to even try to narrow it down. )

Don't Play Doctor
Infertility is a complicated problem to diagnose, and reading an article or book on infertility will not make you an "expert" on the subject.You may feel like you are being helpful by reading up on infertility, and there is nothing wrong with learning more about the subject.The problem comes when you try to "play doctor" with your friends. They already have a doctor with years of experience in diagnosing and treating the problem. They need to work with and trust their doctor to treat the problem. You only complicate the issue when you throw out other ideas that you have read about.

Don't Be Crude
It is appalling that I even have to include this paragraph, but some of you need to hear this-Don't make crude jokes about your friend's vulnerable position. Crude comments like "I'll donate the sperm" or "Make sure the doctor uses your sperm for the insemination" are not funny, and they only irritate your friends.

Don't Complain About Your Pregnancy
This message is for pregnant women-Just being around you is painful for your infertile friends. Seeing your belly grow is a constant reminder of what your infertile friend cannot have. Unless an infertile women plans to spend her life in a cave, she has to find a way to interact with pregnant women. However, there are things you can do as her friend to make it easier.
The number one rule is DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR PREGNANCY. I understand from my friends that, when you are pregnant, your hormones are going crazy and you experience a lot of discomfort, such as queasiness, stretch marks, and fatigue. You have every right to vent about the discomforts to any one else in your life, but don't put your infertile friend in the position of comforting you. Your infertile friend would give anything to experience the discomforts you are enduring because those discomforts come from a baby growing inside of you. When I heard a pregnant woman complain about morning sickness, I would think, "I'd gladly throw up for nine straight months if it meant I could have a baby." When a pregnant woman would complain about her weight gain, I would think, "I would cut off my arm if I could be in your shoes."
I managed to go to baby showers and hospitals to welcome my friends' new babies, but it was hard. Without exception, it was hard. Stay sensitive to your infertile friend's emotions, and give her the leeway that she needs to be happy for you while she cries for herself. If she can't bring herself to hold your new baby, give her time. She isn't rejecting you or your new baby; she is just trying to work her way through her pain to show sincere joy for you. The fact that she is willing to endure such pain in order to celebrate your new baby with you speaks volumes about how much your friendship means to her.

Don't Treat Them Like They Are Ignorant
For some reason, some people seem to think that infertility causes a person to become unrealistic about the responsibilities of parenthood. I don't follow the logic, but several people told me that I wouldn't ache for a baby so much if I appreciated how much responsibility was involved in parenting.
Let's face it-no one can fully appreciate the responsibilities involved in parenting until they are, themselves, parents. That is true whether you successfully conceived after one month or after 10 years. The length of time you spend waiting for that baby does not factor in to your appreciation of responsibility. If anything, people who have been trying to become pregnant longer have had more time to think about those responsibilities. They have also probably been around lots of babies as their friends started their families. Perhaps part of what fuels this perception is that infertile couples have a longer time to "dream" about what being a parent will be like. Like every other couple, we have our fantasies-my child will sleep through the night, would never have a tantrum in public, and will always eat his vegetables. Let us have our fantasies. Those fantasies are some of the few parent-to-be perks that we have-let us have them. You can give us your knowing looks when we discover the truth later.

Don't Gossip About Your Friend's Condition
Infertility treatments are very private and embarrassing, which is why many couples choose to undergo these treatments in secret.Infertility is something that should be kept as private as your friend wants to keep it. Respect your friend's privacy, and don't share any information that your friend hasn't authorized.

Don't Push Adoption (Yet)
Adoption is a wonderful way for infertile people to become parents.However, the couple needs to work through many issues before they will be ready to make an adoption decision. Before they can make the decision to love a "stranger's baby," they must first grieve the loss of that baby with Daddy's eyes and Mommy's nose.You do, indeed, need to grieve this loss before you are ready to start the adoption process. The adoption process is very long and expensive, and it is not an easy road. So, the couple needs to be very sure that they can let go of the hope of a biological child and that they can love an adopted baby. This takes time, and some couples are never able to reach this point. If your friend cannot love a baby that isn't her "own," then adoption isn't the right decision for her, and it is certainly not what is best for the baby.Mentioning adoption in passing can be a comfort to some couples. However, "pushing" the issue can frustrate your friend. So, mention the idea in passing if it seems appropriate, and then drop it. When your friend is ready to talk about adoption, she will raise the issue herself.* * *
So, what can you say to your infertile friends? Unless you say "I am giving you this baby," there is nothing you can say that will erase their pain. So, take that pressure off of yourself. It isn't your job to erase their pain, but there is a lot you can do to lesson the load. Here are a few ideas.
Let Them Know That You Care
Remember Them on Mother's Day
Support Their Decision to Stop Treatments

I'm Back

I know it has been awhile since I have written it has been busy and they took blogs away from me at work and that is where I did most of my posts. Well lets see lately in my life my birthday was the 28th of March which is almost a month ago but for my birthday I went shopping up in Park City which was really fun. I bought some new summer clothes and bought Aaron a jacket. I also got my hair done which I love. Aaron has been trying to get me to go lighter lately so I finally did it I went lighter. I have a lot of blonde highlights on the top and I went darker underneath which I really like. I was surprises that I liked it as much as I do but I think I might keep it like this for a while. Also my brother-in-law moved in for a second while he was buying a house which was pretty interesting but kind of fun. My other brother in law is getting married next week and I am hoping that everything goes good with that. I bought a really cute dress for the wedding which I am very excited to wear. Well that is about it with my life for right now I hope everyone has fun.